First, let us state plainly that the term polygamy is and always has been synonymous with marriage, independent of any 'good opinion.' Moreover, polygyny is actually traditional marriage, in that it is a bond between man and woman, which is the ideal.
The primary difference between polygyny and monogamy are obvious and can be left unstated. However, it is worthwhile to note that the majority of people in these modern times actually practice serial monogamy, jumping from one partner to the next, and sometimes even embracing perversion, all the while crying "it's love!"
This above is one of the reasons that we hardly consider serial monogamy to be superior to biblical polygyny. To the contrary, serial monogamy is terribly destructive, in all aspects, from the spiritual and emotional damage to each and every family member down to the economic devastation and multi-generational retardation.
That being said, there are a few basic reasons we can see for engaging in polygyny, or plural marriage.
- To enjoy numerous "blessings." Psalm 127:3
- To care for widows and their children in the community.
- To strengthen and replenish the church in times of despair.
- To exercise dominion.
We do not consider any reasoning that relies on sensuality to be valid, nor the extinguishment of desire, nor bisexuality. If this is you, please consider some really honest and deep self examination, on every level possible.
Now, some people might be looking for some more casual bits.
- You are living in a big family with your best friends always around, and a lot of support for your life style from other adults.
- You have a lot of children around, your own and those of your sister wives.
- The work in house and garden is distributed evenly amongst the adults of the family.
- You, as a part of the family, can live self sufficiently on the family's own land, and so can your children.
- You are well protected in bad times, and in good company at all times.
- You can home school your children together with other children of the household.
- You will not have to go to a nursery home when you are old, but will be well cared for all the days of your life.
- You can eat wholesome food that the family grew itself.
- You can stay home with your children and don't have to sell yourself to an employer.
- Your children have plenty of other children to grow up with, who are all raised according to the same standard.
In regard to the exercising of dominion:
Please consider the following.
Our basic presupposition is that the bible is God's infallible word and we believe God, believe that He says what He means and means what He says. All of creation is under His authority, and we are to orient our whole life, every aspect of it, along the biblical blueprint. This quite naturally and primarily includes the structure of the family.
The family is the central building block of a godly society, the large, multi-generational, patriarchal and polygamous family - think of Abraham's household or Jacob's family. The purpose of each family is Kingdom Building: "Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven." (Matthew 6:10).
Now if a biblical lifestyle encompasses every aspect of life, then the biblical family can be compared to a self-contained community that controls its economic, educational, social and spiritual life without intervention from society and government other than God's infallible decrees.
Biblical guidelines govern:
- how the family business is run
- how the children are taught and
- how the elderly are taken care of
- how the family worships and praises God
- how the world outside of the family is to be approached or dealt with
There have been Utopian communities in the past, and there are a few today, who try to live outside of the system like this. The communities of days gone by all failed, and modern day communities are bound to fail too because the bond that ties the members together - be it creed, race, political ideals, ecological concerns - ultimately are not strong enough to keep the community together for longer than a few years. We believe that blood is the strongest bond, and that only a family can survive over generations as a multi-generational and self reliant community.
So the task of every family that works towards God's Kingdom these days is to reclaim those areas of life that have been stolen from the family by the state or the church. The goal is independence from an ungodly financial system - you can see the necessity of this in every newspaper in the country every day -, freedom from an ungodly school system and a secular curriculum in order to educate our children properly, providing health and welfare for all ages within the multi-generational family, and a spiritual life free of the self proclaimed authority of modern day churches.
We need to grow, and we need to grow fast, in order to be able to survive outside the system and pursue these goals. We want every family member to have meaningful work within the family, and if you look at the task at hand, you can see that there is more than enough to do for everyone even in the largest household. Working towards the goal requires obedience to God's word first and foremost, and then ingenuity, intelligence, willingness to work towards the goal.
The family is the business, and can you think of anyone better to work with than the people you love and care for most ? All time and strength is put into the godly life of the household, into self sustainability of the family and freedom from society and its secular, humanistic ideals and goals. Think - How much time is wasted making an employer rich and powerful, and how many men end up running off with their secretary ? It's no big surprise that they do, after all, they spent more time with the secretary, share more goals and enthusiasm with her than they do with their wives anymore, unless the secretary, or call it help meet, is their wife in the first place. Men and women have God-appointed roles in the family, different roles that are complementary, and if lived according to God's design they dovetail perfectly to turn the family life into the proverbial well-oiled machine, to make everyone prosper and live a happy and quiet life under God's protective hand.
The series of articles this one is the introduction to deals with the different aspects of life that have been briefly mentioned here - educational, economic, social, spiritual, and any other aspect of life in the large, multi-generational, patriarchal and polygamous family. Thus, we elaborate on why we hold that polygamy is an ideal tool of dominion, instead of dwelling on the biblical foundations of polygamy as such, as those are a given to us and should be to everyone who reads Scripture rather than listening to mainstream Christian preachers.